Talking about sex with a child is always a difficult topic for parents. When you see the need to face sexuality with your child, whether adopted or not, naturalness and calling things by their name is always the best way, but always taking into account the child's age and ability to understand , tha
Talking about sex with a child is always a difficult topic for parents. When you see the need to face sexuality with your child, whether adopted or not, naturalness and calling things by their name is always the best way, but always taking into account the child's age and ability to understand , that is, adapting the information to what he can understand.
In the case of a child who has already adopted a little older it is important that, know or try to investigate, the role that sex has played in that part of your story that you were not in: how sexuality looked in his culture, family, if he has suffered abuses ... and the meaning that he gives to those behaviors so that we can understand them and redirect them towards the meaning that he has for us.
Talk about sexuality with the adopted child
You will also know that sexuality and feelings are linked and, taking into account that an adopted child tends to present conflicts in topics of attachment and affective bonds, he probably does not know very well how to handle feelings and sensations that generate the people that you like or want. Teach him with patience and affection to define how he should act with the people around him.
You must not forget that, to talk about sex with an adopted child, from certain moments, will inevitably be linked to the approach of its origins: I was in your tummy or in that of another mother? Who did not want to stay with me when I was born? Did my parents love me when they conceived me? Was I a wanted baby? The important thing is that you are going to discuss how you are going to deal with the issue so that you do not get caught and you can give an answer that Be respectful of those origins and do not increase feelings of anger or disdain. Teaching you to be tolerant and not to judge is going to be the best way to help you properly manage all unresolved issues.
5 tips to talk about sexuality with your child
1. Choose moments of intimacy, in which you are alone, to encourage conversation.
2. Take advantage of everyday situations (a couple who gives a passionate kiss, a little cousin who is going to be born ...) to ask about what he thinks about it or if he has any doubts.
3. Do not avoid talking about the topic or not answering their questions. If the child sees that it costs you or that you are not comfortable, he will think that there is something wrong.
4. Adapts the language and the contents to their level of understanding but always speaking sincerely.
5. Insists that they are sensitive issues, that they should be treated with respect and that they should not be discussed in public or with everyone.