Tips to help undecided children

There are many children who when they have to make a simple daily decision, such as choosing the color of the shirt to wear in the morning (even if the shirt is the same design), you can turn into a whole dilemma. A dilemma that many times parents solve quickly choosing for them even the simplest th

There are many children who when they have to make a simple daily decision, such as choosing the color of the shirt to wear in the morning (even if the shirt is the same design), you can turn into a whole dilemma.

A dilemma that many times parents solve quickly choosing for them even the simplest things, something that without realizing it, makes a dent in the personality of the child.

How indecisive children are

When a child is never allowed to choose on his own, or to decide what he prefers at any given time, little by little he will become an insecure and fearful child he will know how to make his own decisions for fear of being wrong or not being accepted.

This, in the long run, can have really negative consequences, especially when the child begins to grow and reaches adolescence, a key age where knowing how to say no and having their own decisions is very important so as not to get carried away by the group of equals.

Why there are more insecure children

Having some insecurity or fear is something normal that even adults have at certain moments of our lives, especially when we have to face new situations. But when insecurity exceeds some limits and negatively affects children provoca, it causes children to have a withdrawn personality, due to the great internal tension that they may suffer from certain types of situations where they must choose. This tension can cause you both physical and emotional problems, especially when you have to endure stress for a long time.What causes indecision and insecurity in children

It is common that this indecision and insecurity is caused by parents who are too demanding or too intolerant, that is, they do not have the capacity to have patience or to endure a simple and habitual error of the children (something necessary in the small ones to be able to develop the learning).

It can also appear because of

a constant criticism on the part of the parents towards the children or a constant correction, something that will make the children feel distrust towards themselves, something that will undoubtedly affect them very negatively emotionally. Children in these cases, begin to feel fear and insecurity, to think that if they are wrong they will be rejected, scorned or criticized harshly.

How to help the indecisive child

In order for a child not to be indecisive or to show this type of insecurity, it is important that they are given the opportunity to choose even the simplest

since they are small por, for example if at the time of the snack prefers biscuits or yogurt, or also if you prefer to go to the park or play at the cousins' house. Although it is not necessary to force children to decide on everything without help, it is necessary to do it naturally andto give them a choice between two or three options.

In addition, it is very important not to pressure the child to choose something and respect his response time, if we see that doubt can be guided with questions to find out what he really wants without the parents impose anything.