When disobedience is not bad
All parents know inside ourselves that children when they are little do not disobey for making us angry or because they want to contradict us and harm us, far from it! For example, a two-year-old child who does not pay attention to his parents when they say something to him, is not that he does not
All parents know inside ourselves that children when they are little do not disobey for making us angry or because they want to contradict us and harm us, far from it! For example, a two-year-old child who does not pay attention to his parents when they say something to him, is not that he does not want to, it is that the parents have not formulated the order well.
Or when the child is two or three years old who already understand the orders better, when they are immersed in exploring the world and the parents forbid it but they want to continue exploring, they do not disobey for hurting, they just want to follow their instinct of curiosity and learning and this is not bad!
Children do not disobey because of evil
A young child does not have evil to disobey his parents in such a way that he does it premeditatedly, if he disobeys, he may do so because something inside him tells him to keep learning.
Do not always have to force them to obey, children also have to have their own choices and decisions (even if they are two years old) you just have to give them options and guide them on the right path. But guiding is not imposing something against your will.
The disobedience of the child can often be linked to the parents do not formulate the proposals or orders well, they may not have enough tolerance to understand the needs of their child at that moment. And is that the disobedience of a child, in many cases is more in the minds of parents and how they have established the rules that actually in the behavior of young children.
Blind disobedience does lead to inappropriate behavior
Blind obedience followed by excessive authority will only make children more disobedient in the future, who will not understand the rules that are imposed on them and that a time will come when they will rebel. On the other hand, when children have options, they can make their decisions in the right way, under the guidance of their parents and what is better ... they will be the right decisions.
If you leave the children who are able to make their decisions regarding their actions and help you take the right path, you will realize how your children will grow with a higher self-esteem, will know how to make decisions in the future and will also know Say "no" when you should, something essential in adolescence. So I invite you to think that when you think that your son is disobeying you, instead of recriminating him or letting him look to the side,ask him why he does it and try to understand him
. And if your actions are not adequate, you guide them to the right path with your understanding and support, but if your actions are not excessive, just do not seem right to you, ask yourself the following question; Is it really 'bad' behavior? And if your answer is negative, then ... understand your attitude.
