All parents want our children to be responsible, but we must first differentiate responsibility with obedience. When children obey they can agree or not to do the tasks that are sent home but in the long run obedience always brings problems and consequences in the future because being an obedient be
All parents want our children to be responsible, but we must first differentiate responsibility with obedience. When children obey they can agree or not to do the tasks that are sent home but in the long run obedience always brings problems and consequences in the future because being an obedient being is not being yourself.
For children to be responsible it is not only that they obey sino, but that they understand what they do, how they do it, why they should do it, and best of all, that they come from within to do things well.Tips for getting children to be responsible
1. The example of parents. Parents are the best school to teach children
to be responsible, and this must be done respectfully, creating an environment of trust and safety and also setting an example since the children are babies. The secret is to show the right attitudes instead of demanding them, the good relationship with the children becomes a key for children to learn what they should do, whether we say it or not. Parents should set the example since their children are babies. 2. Homework according to the age of the children.
A child can not be expected to be responsible when he is 15 years old after not having worked at home in previous years. Since they are small to the children you have to teach them, for example, to pick up their toys, set the table, make the bed, as they grow up to pick up things from their room, to do their homework, to have their things organized, to help at home, etc. And all this teach it since they are very small so they internalize within themselves the responsibility of doing things well.To establish a good responsibility, the rules should be established according to the children's age and also establish consequences for not fulfilling them and rewards (never material) for doing things as they should be.
Have rules, limits and responsibilities at home:Rules and limits at home are essential for children to know since they are little what is expected of them, what they should do to contribute to the common well-being of the family and also understand that they must fulfill him for the good of all. For example, you can put in the fridge a set of rules understandable for children so they can see them and not forget them. For the youngest of the house you can create a points system to encourage them to do things well.4. Praise the attitudes and initiatives of children
:Children should learn to take care of what belongs to them, their bed, their books, their backpack, their toothbrush, etc. Parents should talk with children about the importance of taking care of the things that surround us, of the house, as well as the importance of collaborating with others. Participation or care with what belongs to all are also attitudes that lead children to be responsible.When the child resists being responsible
When a child does not want to be responsible is because he refuses to do things that are entrusted to him, in these cases we must know why he acts in this way since they always have an emotional background that will be to resolve from affection and respect. Children like to be responsible because this will provide them with security and self-esteem. If they do not want to do things, it is because something happens to them and it bothers them emotionally.