How to educate autonomous and independent children
Avoid overprotection starts from small. Let the child explore, know; let him fall, let him comfort him when he hurts himself, and let him help him get up so he can continue learning ... Let the child face his difficulties as a child. He has to develop the skills for himself. If he wants a toy, let h
Avoid overprotection starts from small. Let the child explore, know; let him fall, let him comfort him when he hurts himself, and let him help him get up so he can continue learning ... Let the child face his difficulties as a child. He has to develop the skills for himself. If he wants a toy, let him go and look for it, we will not bring it to him; If he wants something that another child wants in the park, or another child took the toy from him, he will ask for it, we will not solve the situation.
How to promote autonomy in childrenWe must encourage
to learn to think for yourself
. You have to ask him the reason of things, what he believes ... If he does not want to face a new learning, that he sees that this is not optional, that although he does not like it, it is something that he will have to do. Practicing new sports or activities that involve a certain effort, perseverance and routine will also help you. To do activities with other children in which adults are not always on top.
It is important not to give them everything they ask for. Sometimes there are parents who do not wait for the children to open their mouths. They provide everything they think they may like or what they would have liked to have as children. Children have to learn the value of things, effort and money. When they want something, they have to see that they are not given immediately, that they have to make an effort, that they have to earn it. Sometimes there will be things that may as much as they want and ask for, they will not have them because the parents do not seem appropriate, or because they are not designed for children their age.
Children must have a bond with their parents that provides them with security, stability, but a healthy bond, not absolute dependence. Let's encourage them to generate positive bonds with other relatives, grandparents, uncles, close friends, and be able to stay with them from time to time. In consultation, we see children for whom it is a drama to be separated one day from their parents, and that school activities are lost, such as farms, cultural weeks, study trips ... because of the inability to sleep outside the home because they do not feel safeif their parents are not with them.
Tips so that parents do not overprotect children They need to learn and train to deal with the rest of the conflictive situations that will occur in social relationships throughout life. Let's not forget that children are prepared to do things by themselves from very young, so: - Do not give him food; that he eat alone even if he falls.
- Do not see him, even if it takes longer, to dress himself.
- Do not carry the stroller if you are old enough not to go there.
- Remove the diaper when appropriate, even at the risk that you will sometimes escape.
- For example, the pacifier is something of babies, a three-year-old child should not use it.
The article includes excerpts from the book
'We want happy children. What they never taught us'