The stage of egocentricity in children

Being self-centered means that the person only thinks about himself and does not matter what others think or feel. But in the case of children it does not mean that it is egocentric (or egoistic) simply that they are in an evolutionary stage in which they are the protagonists because they have not y

The egocentrism is part of the development of the children and it is healthy to have it, it is also that they must go through this stage and the parents do not have to give it more importance than it really has, they should only arm themselves with patience and affection.

When the egocentric stage in children begins

Approximately two years or three years old children go through this phase of self-centeredness as a sign of the deep state of the human being because people are egocentric by nature but good development and education will make that changes.

The child knows the world according to his own perspective as unique and for this reason has great difficulty to put himself in the perspective of the other. They can not empathize and understand the perspective of the other person, to understand what happens the child should be able to become aware of reality something that is complicated for his mind at that time because he is not yet able to differentiate himself from the rest.

In the egocentric stage of children it is common for temper tantrums to appear continuously due to a lack of understanding and the lack of possibility of adequate communication, which is why children show great frustration at different events.

With temper tantrums the child exhibits inappropriate behaviors (screams, insults, tantrums) that he uses to obtain what he wants, even if it is a passing stage, it is necessary to help them so that tantrums are not a daily routine.

How to act during the children's ego stage

For this and as parents you will have to have a positive mental attitude considering that it is possible to change behavior by encouraging them in a constructive way. For this:

- You will not have to give him what he demands (with tantrum or bad manners) and entertain him with another alternative that you consider appropriate, act calmly, control your attitude without shouting and bad manners, act with affection and calmly point out things to him , say things with few words and use the 'striped record' (say the same thing over and over again) calmly and without nerves, after the tantrum and when calm has arrived explain your behavior and express what you expect from him next time ... but above all, fight because the family atmosphere is calm and happy and be a good example of calm and serenity.

- It will be from the complete acquisition of language when the children begin to socialize with others and to begin to understand the point of view of the other, being at four years the beginning of another evolutionary stage because it will begin to have maturity and understanding of the world around you.