How the child should behave when other children hit him

Today when I am in the park with my son I see child behavior of all kinds in children. I can observe very alert children, more withdrawn and shy children, children who beat and bite, children who do not know how to defend themselves ... but I also see different behaviors in parents: parents who let their children hit, parents who let their children beat and parents who scold their children when they hit or help their children when they hit them.

And I am sure that these children at school have similar behaviors and that it is the same as the age of the children because when they are in a way in social contexts like the park they will be in other places like at school. But there are more withdrawn and shy children who need strategies to be able to behave correctly without creating discomfort inside them. Is your child shy and when they hit him he does not know what to do?

How a shy child should behave when another child hits him

A child will learn to behave depending on how parents teach them from a young age, so the presence and guidance of parents is essential. I have ever found parks in moms and dads that left children 'to their own devices' so that they would learn to defend themselves if they were beaten, but is this really ethical and does it work? Teach a child to hit because they hit him? Violence as a response to violence? I have my doubts about this.

When children are young they are in a moment of developing their social skills and it is very important to take care of this and teach them correctly so that in their future they can have good interaction strategies with others. They need a model to imitate: that of the parents.

In social skills we must learn to resolve conflicts in interpersonal relationships because they exist and will exist, so it does not serve to overprotect them, we must teach them to behave correctly in this type of negative situations, but always making it clear that aggressive behavior never It must be tolerated.

To learn to solve their conflicts they will need a reference model, you must intervene when your child is beaten and guided properly. If you do not do it, you will be taking away the opportunity to learn correctly how to handle these situations and you will also be saying that you allow the use of violence, something that is totally intolerable.

When a child is hit and he is shy he should not let them hit him, he should always seek help from the adult and be able to express what has happened having left the place. In this way the adult will act as a model for learning new social skills guiding the process towards a dialogue and looking for consequences for the offender such as leaving him without recess if he is at school or talking with the parents of the child if it is about the park (but without resorting to violence).