Perfectionist children are extremely demanding of themselves, they propose goals that are practically impossible to achieve, and if the result is very good but not perfect they will get angry. The most common age at which this perfectionism syndrome develops is from 4 to 7 years old. It is from this
Perfectionist children are extremely demanding of themselves, they propose goals that are practically impossible to achieve, and if the result is very good but not perfect they will get angry.
The most common age at which this perfectionism syndrome develops is from 4 to 7 years old. It is from this age when parents begin to realize the level of demand of their child with himself. But ... what are the causes of these children demanding so much?
Causes of extreme perfectionism in children
It is difficult to know what their causes are. Certain specialists point out that those affected can only live in a very strict family context en, in which the ability to carry out any activity with excellence is highly valued. In this way, the little one feels that he will only be loved by his parents if he is perfect.However, there are those who point out that some perfectionist childrengrow up in environments where the opposite is true: they are lax and permissive
with the norms or they do not value doing school tasks correctly. They tend to be family environments, very poor emotionally and intellectually, and because of this, the minor 'separates' from them by taking refuge in this perfectionist tendency. What experts agree is that it is a disorder related to low self-esteem and the need to feel loved. Características 7 characteristics of the child perfectionist 1. Being insecure children, prefer to always do the same activities
, those who know they do well, before trying something new for fear that they will go wrong.
2. Their search for perfection causes them anxiety.
3. They are very sensitiveto others who think about them, and do not consider that doing something right is enough. They think that it should be perfect. Por 4. On the other hand, it is good to want to be a little better each day, in fact the goal should be to learn from mistakes and be a little better each time. The problem is that these perfectionist children do not enjoy enough of the achievements. They are very critical of themselves and, even though they obtain an excellent academic result, they always think that they could have done better. They do not understand that doing something very well is already worth it. This anxiety to want more and better does not allow you to enjoy those that you get immediately, in the present. All energy is put into what they will become, in the future.
5. They constantly seek to please parents . The parents are your reference and these children seek your constant approval. Therefore, they try to be the best and are afraid to let them down.
6. They tolerate little frustration. It hurts a lot to lose or not to be able to do something perfectly. They feel real panic in the face of failure.
7. They are introverted. They have a hard time expressing their feelings.