What to do when the child wants to discuss

When a child of 4 or 5 years old refuses what his father or mother says is not impertinent, it is that he has personality and only wants to impose his criteria on others because he continues to believe that is the center of the world and that has the absolute truth. At this age, arguing and disobeyi

At this age, arguing and disobeying is very common since they already have a lot of vocabulary and feel confident in their discourse and want to get what they want in this way ... but they are not able to understand logic. At this stage, parents must begin to deal with these situations correctly to avoid major conflicts as children grow up.

Some circumstances where the child discusses

Some circumstances in which a child argues and that can be quite common is when you have to put on jackets in winter to go outside. A argumentative child will tell you that he is not cold and will fight not to put on his jacket, and the result of this situation is always an exasperated mother or father and a child with cold.

Although this is a small example, fights and tantrums can be for any other reason (the best time to go to sleep, what you want and do not want to have dinner, the time of bath, etc). In this sense it is necessary to limit the discussions, and you can do it with some strategies to reduce these small conflicts at home, but, how to get it?

How to reduce arguments with your young child at home

-Keep calm. Even if your child refuses everything you say or do, being angry is not the solution and can lead to a horrible power struggle or worse, your child may feel that he can not count on you to express his feelings. If you notice that your emotions start to be negative, it is better to leave the room and calm down by taking deep breaths. When you feel calm you can handle the situation again.

-Set standards. Your child will need to know that there are things at home that are not open to negotiation. Things like safety, not talking to strangers, holding your hand when crossing the street, etc., are things that can not be discussed. The same goes for routines at home, they are unbreakable and you can not oppose them. For example, if your child tries to discuss why you turned off the TV or the Tablet, do not enter the discussion if you should or should not continue with it, simply give the order 'go to the bathroom to brush your teeth'.

-Point system. If your child is very argumentative, the point system can be a help. For example, if your child has trouble getting up in the morning to go to school or brushing their teeth 3 times a day, then a point system will be ideal. If your child wakes up every day or brushes his teeth 3 times, you can give him 1 point for each thing he does well and when he reaches 20 in the week (or the points you decide depending on what you want to achieve) , you can choose an activity to do as a family, have breakfast or take a sweet at the bakery on the weekend ... you will be surprised by the results!