As children grow, the expectations parents have for them increase because they believe that their children will have the ability to eat and dress themselves, order their room, etc. But often it happens that children do not see these habits necessary and it is the beginning of conflicts ... That is w
As children grow, the expectations parents have for them increase because they believe that their children will have the ability to eat and dress themselves, order their room, etc. But often it happens that children do not see these habits necessary and it is the beginning of conflicts ...
That is why it is so important to learn to negotiate with them and, in passing, to teach them to negotiate. We tell you how.
Why it is important to teach children to negotiate
Parents should have patience with children intentar and try to negotiate ya, since the ability of children to put themselves in the other's place and analyze is very limited at the moment the one that these conflicts start. The resolution of conflicts will be very important for the coexistence and socialization of children.The negotiation will be key so that they learn to resolve conflicts in a diplomatic way que and that they resort as little as possible to crying, tantrums or aggression to solve their problems both with adults and with other children.
In addition, negotiating lets the children know that they are being heard, that their ideas are valuable and that they are taken into account. Children come to understand that both sides of the conflict can be satisfied with the solution taken 7 tips to teach children to negotiate To get them to learn to negotiate we must know that:
To negotiate is only learned by negotiating
. Conflict situations must arise so that children can learn to handle them. Of course, we must try to be given in the best possible context, when the child is rested and is calm. Therefore, conflict situations should not be avoided, but rather be taken care of so that they occur in the best of contexts and thus serve as a model for learning
2. We must stand firm before the normsand allow children to be those who solve their own conflicts. Let them learn that tolerating frustration is the basis of social relationships.
3. Listen. It is necessary that time is spent listening and assessing the request or desire of the child, without judging or discarding.
It is not wrong for your children to learn to negotiate and not accept a NO for an answer to the first. 4. Offer alternatives
. You can help the child think of other ways to get what he wants or find other solutions to his approach.
5. Teach to ask.Children should be clear that with cries and screams they will not achieve their goal. We must teach them that they can use creativity or argumentation to take us to their terrain. El 6. The child is free to ask and we adults will listen, however,
he has to learn that NOT everything he wants can be obtained por, at least in the form and at the time he asks for it. 7. It is important to teach them that they have to take into account other people's feelings and points of view.
Not everything can be negotiatedIs everything negotiated? Negotiating children acquires tools to communicate and resolve many conflicts satisfactorily, but not everything can be negotiated. The time to get up, go to school, study are examples of non-negotiable situations.
Although the important thing is that each family decides what can be negotiated. It will be the parents who decide according to the criteria they consider and the children will have to be very clear about what is negotiable and what is not. There should be no discrepancies between the parents. That is, there is a father who negotiates everything and a mother who does not negotiate anything or gives or vice versa.