No child likes to be bullied or called to attention by his parents when he misbehaves, let alone in front of his siblings, classmates or friends. Many of them fear the scolding of their parents and to avoid lying or hide their antics as long as they can. But is it good that they are afraid of being
No child likes to be bullied or called to attention by his parents when he misbehaves, let alone in front of his siblings, classmates or friends. Many of them fear the scolding of their parents and to avoid lying or hide their antics as long as they can.
But is it good that they are afraid of being bullied or perhaps the remedy is worse than the disease? To what extent is the reprimand effective and not harmful?
How to use scolding with children in a constructive way
It is clear that parents, and more today, we have to use many techniques to model, channel and correct the behavior of our children. Among all of them, rega reprimands are one of the most used forms , perhaps too often, to draw attention to our children when something they have done is wrong.While
nagging is not usually the best way for a child to learn , when they are constructive and performed from calm, verbal scolding or reprimands can be used from time to time to modify certain behaviors. The danger of reprimands lies in the ease in which one can lose control and end up screaming or threatening children, that is, when they get out of hand and cause fear.Remember that the scolding should be used to correct the children, not to frighten them.
The purpose of reproaches is always to educate, not to frighten or humiliate. To be effective we must use them properly, speaking in a firm tone but without shouting, disqualifying or embarrassing the child. Otherwise, we run the risk that the scolding ends up being counterproductive because of the fear we generate for our children. Negative effects on children of misbehaving reprimands Está - It is proven that children who are afraid of being scolded will lie to us more
and will assume their responsibility for mistakes or failures worse.
- A constructive rebuke helps children to know that this particular behavior is unacceptable and inadmissible, a scolding to frighten you prevents learning and internalization of the rules of conduct .
- Young children are very sensitive to criticism and screaming from adults. And, despite the fact that not all of them react equally to the scolding, an excess of them can end up undermining the self-esteem of our children. - Scolding a child with an altered tone, with insults and humiliations,can trigger depression over time, lack of self-esteem and even lead to violent behavior. What is now fear in the future will be resentment.