Symptoms of an overprotected child

The most common mistake that we find today in the education of children, is undoubtedly overprotection. There is a lot of talk about it, about the effects it has on children, but at a very high percentage, parents do not know what the overprotection consists of, let alone its consequences. Parents w

The most common mistake that we find today in the education of children, is undoubtedly overprotection. There is a lot of talk about it, about the effects it has on children, but at a very high percentage, parents do not know what the overprotection consists of, let alone its consequences.

Parents will not be able to keep the protection bubble in which they introduce their children for an indefinite time, and when the bubble burst, they will find children with no resources, no skills, more vulnerable, less safe, and probably more unhappy

Symptoms of the overprotected child

Preventing children from getting frustrated because they are told not to do something, (such as, 'You can not play now, turn off the television, get dressed alone' or 'you can not eat a trinket before eating , first you eat the steak ... ') the only thing that we will achieve is that they do not learn to tolerate the small frustrations of the day to day, that they lack sufficient motivation and self-discipline to achieve their goals in the future.

These are some of the symptoms that indicate that we are overprotecting the children:

- They will wait for the adult who will always res solve the situations and will not develop their own strategies. - They will not learn the necessary resources to function successfully in life.

- We will prevent them from learning to tolerate the small frustrations of everyday life.

- Children whose parents have an education model that is based on overprotection develop fewer emotional competencies, are more insecure, have fewer skills, are more likely to be victims of bullying, and in the long run are more unhappy.

How to know if parents are overprotective with their children

Overprotection

is an educational style of parents , in which parents assume part of their children's responsibilities, treat them as younger, solve problems ... prevent the child from suffering, frustrating or having a bad time, the parents give him the resolved tasks, and they are not aware that they are preventing their children from learning, that they develop correctly, that they grow up healthy, safe, autonomous and independent. Sometypical behaviors of overprotection in parents:- They are not allowed to do things for which they are prepared, which prevents them from acquiring autonomy. Se - They anticipate in such a way the satisfaction of their needs that they do not allow children to develop correctly. Les - They are prevented from developing resources and strategies that will be necessary in the future.

- They satisfy their needs in excess. No - Do not let them get frustrated, suffer, be left without something they like, fight for their goals ... it will be more harmful than beneficial. En - Instead of listening to children and helping them with their day-to-day problems with their friends, they are solved, talking directly with the child or with their parents.

In this way

children are prevented from developing the necessary skills solve to solve their difficulties, and with this we run the risk of becoming dependent children, unable to solve their own problems in the future.

The article includes excerpts from the book

'We want happy children. What they never taught us'

, by Silvia Álava.