I still remember the day my daughter came home and said: 'Children have penises, and girls have vagina'. And so it stayed so wide, and then I thought ... he already knows his body and knows how it is that of others, or at least that there is another sex other than her. This happened with two and a h
I still remember the day my daughter came home and said: 'Children have penises, and girls have vagina'. And so it stayed so wide, and then I thought ... he already knows his body and knows how it is that of others, or at least that there is another sex other than her. This happened with two and a half years. And is that from this age is when children begin to see these differences and also the first step to start claiming a little privacy, or begin to be embarrassed in certain situations.
When and why modesty appears in children
Between two and four years of age, boys and girls begin to "want to have some intimacy" in actions such as going to the bathroom, changing clothes, or even taking a bath. It appears, then modesty. Here at this stage, modesty is a mixture between the desire to be autonomous and want to do everything by themselves, and also a bit of shame, showing modesty when teaching their most intimate parts. At this age, sexuality is not very well defined es, that is, they do not know very well what it is. Let's see how sexuality develops:
- With 2 years: Children recognize themselves sexually, that is, they know if they are a boy or a girl, and it is even a stage in which they can ask themselves where children come from. At this stage there is great curiosity and they will touch and look at each other without sexual connotations.- With 3 to 4 years old:
They already identify with their father or mother and wonder about the differences between boys and girls. - From 4 to 6 years old:
The first notes that begin to appear shame, especially when there are people who are not from their environment. Now
6-7 years old: He prefers to bathe alone, without the presence of his parents.
What parents can do to the modesty of children Feel shame is something normal and is not bad , parents should respect the wishes of children trying to defend their privacy and without this supposing something strange.
If a child already knows how to clean himself when he goes to the bathroom, we will let him go alone, yes, without closing latches or locks of the bathrooms.
For the bath, depending on how old you are, we can let you soap yourself and we supervise, or just check that there is no soap and thus encourage your autonomy little by little. Normally in the presence of parents, especially of the same sex, do not usually show shame or embarrassment, but when there are people who are not regular in their environment, we must be careful, if they can show some shame. In these casesyou have to respect them more, and do not do things you do not want como, such as undressing in front of these people. And of course not to scold him if he does not want to do something or say things to him like 'look how embarrassing, but if we have the same as you', because it will increase his shame.
The most important thing is
respect and simplicity before these issues
, and that what they see at home is the most natural model to imitate.