How to educate whining and grumbling children
Children complain and protest, especially when they are small. That a small one is complaining day is normal since it is his way of telling you that he does not agree with what you are saying, the problem is that if he does not stop these complaints in time he can become a chronic complainer. A chil
Children complain and protest, especially when they are small. That a small one is complaining day is normal since it is his way of telling you that he does not agree with what you are saying, the problem is that if he does not stop these complaints in time he can become a chronic complainer.
A child who is a 'chronic whiner' and whose parents have not remedied or educated him to stop being so is likely to become a 'whiny' adult and respond.
What to do if our child protests and complains about everything
It is very important that, from the time they are young, parents educate their children 'complainers' so that they stop being so and know how to behave in a more appropriate way, being able to channel the emotions that they make them complain all the time (for anything).
You will have to control your nerves and not give in to your child's demands just to shut up because then their complaints will gradually become demands. Do not miss the following tips so you do not lose your sanity.
1. Stay calm. It is true that the constant complaints of your children can take you out of your boxes and get on your nerves but it will not do you any good. Children can kick, bite, scream or cry so you can look at them and listen to them. If you shout too or reproach them for their bad behavior you will be doing a negative reinforcement, that is, you will see that with your bad attitude you are getting the attention you want so much from you. In this sense, calmly and firmly you can correct the behavior of your child by saying things like: "Please ask for it properly" or maybe something like: 'Please, do not hit my lose, I do not like it and it hurts'. Remember that if you scream to express your frustration, your child will also.
2. Do not yield. When children persist in their 'complaints' many parents are tempted to give in just for not listening to them. For this reason it is necessary that you do not give in and that you speak with a normal voice all the time. Ignore and pretend that you read or do something else until your child begins to speak normally, and only then can you start negotiating a solution (which does not mean having to give in to your pretensions).
3. Do not forget the compliments. If your child's misbehavior continues, you will have to make clear the discipline you will use and say things like: 'If you keep yelling at Mom, you will have to think about your bedroom for a few minutes.' When your child is calm then you will have to talk to him to reinforce the message of apologizing and give him a hug with all your love. The key to the discipline of 'whiny' children is consistency. Although the misconduct deserves the attention of the parents and should be corrected, good behavior will also have to be praised. If your child resolves a conflict without complaining you will have to praise him, it will be an achievement for him!
