Why adopt a child
Each of us is unique and different and it is clear that we will have different reasons that lead us to adopt even if all of them can be summarized in one: the desire to be a mother or father. Wanting to perform as parents responds to something very instinctive, very primal. To want to leave somethin
Each of us is unique and different and it is clear that we will have different reasons that lead us to adopt even if all of them can be summarized in one: the desire to be a mother or father.
Wanting to perform as parents responds to something very instinctive, very primal. To want to leave something ours here, someone to continue our story, is hope, it is love, it is to have someone to love, to care for and to love us and take care of us. It is to form a family. Faced with this desire, adoption is another alternative. We can reach it in different ways depending on the personal history of each one of us or simply not contemplate it.
Reasons to adopt a child
1. Social awareness: There are parents who are considering adopting because they are very aware of the situation of the children who are waiting to be assigned a family. This is usually because they have had close experiences with adoption cases: they have been adopted children, they know examples of friends or relatives, they work directly with children, they know other countries or other tougher realities, ... Having seen the difficult situation of many children who are given up for adoption and other family models makes that I myself can consider this option in order to form my own. D 2. Difficulty having a biological child:
On other occasions, nature has been capricious with us and has placed obstacles in the way of achieving a pregnancy because either of lack of a partner, or because of being a same-sex couple or simply because there is some kind of organic difficulty. Fears and doubts that arise before adopting
Raising adoption in these cases is completely normal but is often accompanied by doubts and mixed feelings because we had never considered adopting before. Will I know how to do it well? Will I love it? Will he love me?
In the background
there is a great fear en, in many adoptive parents, that their son does not feel as wanted or wanted as if he were a biological child, to think: 'they have adopted me because they could not'. This is one more fear of us as parents. Why? Because we have faced a desire that has not been fulfilled and that always entails a disappointment and a duel that must be faced, accepted and overcome so that we can prepare ourselves calmly and with hope for the arrival of our son in a healthy way. It is very likely that he has similar fears and that is why he needs adults, parents, who are sure of what they do, their feelings and the decisions they make so that the child feels really protected. Whatever the reason that led us to consider this adoption is perfectly valid as long as the person adopting is clearthat the child is going to be his son
and he is his / her parent whatever happens; and that they will form a family. As with a biological child. Of course it has peculiarities: there is no pregnancy, there is a lot of bureaucracy, interviews, long waiting times, ... but any mother will tell you that there are not two equal pregnancies, nor two equal children, nor the moments are the same, ... people who choose not to adopt We will also meet people who do not consider themselves capable of adopting because they feel that the feelings are not the same, because they think it is a much more complicated way of being a father ... Those arguments should not make us feel bad or sow doubt if we listen to them. We have to think that
there are people who choose not to have children
, who decide to dedicate their lives to religion, who prefer to live in the most remote places in the world or who welcome children without actually adopting. Fortunately we live in a world full of options.
