How to prevent children from being a crystal generation

I have been observing friends, parents, peers, and acquaintances for some time as they behave and what attitudes they hold in different circumstances with their children, and how their children act in different situations and determined places, and I always come to the same conclusion; Are we creati

Children today are usually awake, handsome, affectionate, with emotional skills, and digital above all, but wrapped in a very fragile container.

How to prevent children from being a generation of crystal

This is a generation that has had many help from their parents, from the school and social environment, and too many tools with which to cover their needs.

Like coach, my gaze focuses on what they can become, what can happen when the bubble is broken, the fragile container that protects them, when they have to face overcoming, manage complex situations and frustrating, and do not find in them resources necessary to do it satisfactorily because nobody before has taught it.

5 measures for children to acquire these skills:

1. Do not always excuse our children. We should not excuse bad behaviors, much less praise them. Nor should it be considered exceptional behavior that should be usual. For a child to behave correctly at the dinner table, should be the usual. Just as on occasions I have witnessed a very bad behavior of a child in a restaurant, with only a slight correction from the parents, followed by the justification of "they are children's things"

2. They should assume more responsibility. Children must assume that responsibility that parents deny them. It is vital for its development. Assign tasks and functions at home, and in other areas where they operate.

3. Offer them participation in family decisions. In a way, it implies the introduction of the assembly model in the family group.

It would be sporadic meetings of the family to analyze and agree some decisions on exits to shows, to places outside the city, vacations. Take other agreements such as schedules, games and free time, etc.

What is really important is that they assume some decisions that are shared with the other members of the family. But it is not about establishing an assembly system for the total of family decisions. Parents can not decline responsibilities and decisions that only concern them.

4. Obligations and personal and collective tasks.We should avoid giving them everything done. If it were for us, we would do everything the child should do as a way to sacrifice ourselves for him because of how much we love him. But this is not how it helps. Children must take on the tasks that they can perform for themselves or to help others.

5. Teach them to have their own criteria. It is a difficult task, but we must help them to form their own criteria and thoughts, first about acts in the immediate environment, family, school, environment. Accustom him to analyze about nearby events in order to maintain autonomy of thought and security in future situations.